We have had lots of those hard talks with our children. You know, the ones about drugs. The ones about alcohol. The ones about how we love the people who do these things just not their actions. Carter knows all about the birds and the bees. Ethan knows how babies get out, just not how they get in. Olivia calls all of her anatomy by its proper name etc.
We even have talks about modesty. My boys know to take girls to the prom wearing a modest dress. They also know that I don’t wear a two piece bathing suit (Ok that is also to keep the flab in place but it can serve 2 purposes don’t you think)? We made the decision when Olivia was born not to put her in strappy sundresses without a t-shirt under because at what age do you start telling your daughter that it is not OK to have a strappy dress on. And we already told the boys about respecting women’s bodies and that goes for their sister too.
So when Olivia and I set out to find a swimming Barbie I knew I would buy her one wearing a one-piece bathing suit. Of course there were scores of them in bikinis and for only $6.99. but then I spotted this one on the bottom shelf. It was something like a “Marine Biologist Barbie” frolicking with dolphins in Scuba gear and a dive watch. She had a one piece bathing suit on and was $22.99.
I stuck to my guns. I bought the way too expensive Barbie because darn it if I have to pay $300 for a modest prom dress I will. I am setting the standard now. Laying the foundation for her core values. Fighting the good fight.
Whatever. We get home and Barbie’s bathing suit was one of those painted on type things that would change colors in warm water. Yeah the purple one piece disappears and reveals a pink string thing that was worse than anything the others were wearing back on the shelf.
Oh and she has a tattoo in warm water too. Good call Nicole.
PS-don’t all Barbie’s end up naked anyway? Maybe I need a new strategy.
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Geez, I hear ya on this whole modest thing. I fought Bratz dolls like no other...they look like a bunch of hookers and like my mother in law said, dolls with the name "Bratz"...you're just looking for trouble. So what does my sister do??? Goes out and buys my daughter and her daughters matching Bratz dolls as gifts. Ugggh..
Okay, the barbie story is hilarious! And I'm so sorry about your dog...ugly cries are not good in public. Not good at all.
Nicole....I found your blog thru Melanie's. It has been fun to read of your Alaskan adventures....Good luck I can't imagine all the new stuff you are experiencing.
I still remember the help you offered when I had the twins. You didn't know me well, but you were so willing to share what you knew worked. Thanks again, hopefully you will find an Alaskan friend that can make your transistion a little easier. Hang in there! Kristen (from Perry)
I tried to find Marin a regular Barbie for Christmas at Wal-Mart and all I could find were bikini Barbies or Barbies dressed in mini skirts and tank tops! I'm serious! You'd think in December you could find some type of winter Barbie or something. I'm so glad that now you can explain to Livvy how tattoos are not good for our bodies...
Nice. I loved reading your adventures. Modesty and tattoos that should be a fun conversation. At times I feel as though as a mom I am in a constant uphill struggle. Society really seems to be fighting me all of the way.
I call the Bratz dolls "slutz." So far I have been very vocal and got the word out to all concerned that a gift of one of those will not be appreciated. Now I have found cute Groovy Girls. And while you still have to look for it there is a bunch of more modest outfits for them. Target is the only chain store that I know that carries them.
THe other dolls we like but don't own yet are "The Only Hearts Club" THey are all modest and move more like Barbies. You have to go to the non-chain toy stores for those or look on e-bay.
I call the Bratz dolls Hooker Barbies. Alexandra never had one. I am a little curious about the tattoo though...
Did I miss something about the dog?
I love it!! I just saw the same situation while barbie shopping for a birthday gift. Barbie is dressed like a hooker most of the time.
PS...Glad to see in your post above that your sweet dog is safe and home!!
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